I think it's safe to say that many of us at one time or another have experienced loss; let that be from a break up, loss of a family member, or even a job. The levels of intensity vary from person to person.
Starting in the late 1990's to the early 2000's, on my mother's side of the family we experienced a great amount of loss. In 1997, my Uncle Peter passed away. In 2010, my mother Carole was next and in 2013, Grandma Rose said her goodbyes. During each passing I was completely unaware of the deep seeded emotions being triggered and suppressed at the same time. One day while visiting with friends in New York City, I had an emotional breakdown at age 30. For too long those bottled up emotions of grief ate away at me. So then and there, I made the agreement with myself to seek help to begin a healthy process of grieving that would set me free from being attached to 'loss.'
Feng Shui became one of many tools to assist in my grieving process. How so? Living the lifestyle of Feng Shui promotes the concept of staying connected with the spirits of deceased loved ones, while releasing the physical attachment. This is vitally important to understand and embrace.
This also required me to review how I was choosing to furnish my home (let that be though colors, elements, artwork, textiles, lighting, etc) because all of it conveyed a story of emotions, along with what my subconscious and conscious minds were choosing to focusing on. In that moment, I was focusing on the past and it was holding me back in all realms of life.
Being honest with myself and seeing that I was living in the past, initiated the process of re-opening myself up to unlimited beneficial possibilities. Two life sections on the ba-gua map that were heavily engaged during this time in my life included spirituality/wisdom and family.
In short, I created a ceremony by visiting Provincetown, MA (as Carole, Peter and Rose were very found of P'Town) to spread their ashes, signifying 'letting go' and honoring their final wishes. Was it all sad, doom, and gloom? Absolutely not. To me, I choose to perceive the act as an adventure and it for sure was a literal end of an era to new beginnings.
Keep in mind, it took me time to get up to this point (from 2013 - 2017). I worked with other healers, read books and took workshops that allowed me to understand the process of death, grieving and healing. The intention of this post is to help offer another approach or perspective in how to grieve.
For anyone experiencing this lesson in life, know it takes time to heal. Please allow yourself to live your life to its fullest and know those who have passed on are only a whisper away.